By Elisabeth Klein Corcoran
As a child of divorce, I was simply positive I wouldn’t grow up to get divorced. And then I became a Christian at fifteen, and that life change absolutely solidified my earlier decision: divorce would not happen to me.
But life doesn’t always go the way you think that it should. And people hurt each other and make choices that you couldn’t foresee. And I found myself at the age of forty, looking back on years and years of a difficult Christian marriage, and looking ahead at what seemed to be the end of my relationship.
To say I was devastated is an understatement. Even as a writer who tried to put my thoughts and emotions to paper in a book, I still remain unable to find just the right combination of words and sentences to accurately convey what my divorce did to my heart, soul and life.
So I’ll say this: My divorce broke me.
It’s been a little over a year since my divorce was final and I am finding healing coming, but it’s been a hard-fought battle.
Healing has not just swept into my life while I laid in bed day in and day out.
I’ve had to beg for it. I’ve had to look for it. I’ve had to work for it. I’ve had to wait for it.
But it’s coming. My heart and soul and life are being mended and put back together and reconstructed and restored.
I barely recognize who I was then with who I am now. God isn’t just restoring me. He is making all things in me new again.
If you are a separated or divorced Christian woman, there is hope for your healing.
You are not alone.
The pain will not last forever.
Your divorce does not define who you are.
Your divorce is not the final word on your life; it’s not your final chapter.
No matter what has been said or done or not said or not done up to this point, at any time, you can start over.
And no matter what, seriously, God loves you. Just as you are. In the exhaustion. In the doubt. In the pain. In the shame. His love and grace covers over every part of it, every detail.
And it’s his love and grace that will bring you back to life again.
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Elisabeth Klein Corcoran is the author of Unraveling: Hanging Onto Faith Through the End of a Christian Marriage, speaks several times a month to women’s groups, and is a member of Redbud Writers’ Guild. During her time at Christ Community Church’s Blackberry Creek Campus in Aurora, Illinois she began and led their women’s ministry for ten years prior to moving to the city’s Orchard Community Church. She lives with her teenaged children in Illinois. Visit her online at http://www.elisabethcorcoran.com or https://www.facebook.com/ElisabethKleinCorcoran. She is the moderator of two private Facebook groups: one for women in difficult Christian marriages, and one for Christian women who are separated or divorced. Email her at email@example.com if interested in joining
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